So my first Christmas with braces has been and gone and it was a lovely Christmas, full of fun, food and drink! My braces did however stop me from eating the following;
- Chocolate covered Brazil nuts
- Toblerone
- Gingerbread Biscuit/House
- Chestnuts
- Any nuts actually
- Hotel Chocolat slab of chocolate (varying flavours)
Most of the above isn't very good for the waistline anyway so It was probably a blessing in disguise but at the time, tres annoying! The more yummy things like chocolate I either broke up into bits or got my boyfriend to bite a bit off then give it to me, almost like a bird feeding their young, just without the regurgitating bit, my relationship moved to a new level right there!
On Christmas Eve I went out with my boyfriend and some friends and unfortunately there always has to be one dickhead in a crowd and as usual I met him. I was subjected to some lovely comments from a teenage boy about my chin whilst queuing at the bar. There was a plus side however, this little urchin's dad was also queuing next to me and gave his son a good wallop and sent him back to the table and apologised to me and offered to buy my round of drinks and a bottle of wine as way of an apology for his (and I quote) "stupid idiot of a son".
It was a nice gesture and I was glad that he pulled his son up about his actions but it did put a dampener on my evening. It gets tiring always having to brush off comments, to pick yourself up and try and make yourself feel better, ignore all the old comments and feelings that come rushing back, push down that feeling of wanting to just go home, get into bed and cry and put a smile back on your face. It's bloody tough and it really annoys me, why should I or anybody for that matter be made to feel like shit just because you look slightly different. It just makes me want this surgery to hurry up and happen, so I don't have to put up with comments, or worry about it before I go out, or hide instances like that from my boyfriend and friends to stop their night from being ruined too.
On that note how does everyone else deal with that? I'm always reluctant to tell my boyfriend then and there when someone has made a comment, he's not an angry or aggressive person but he would have to say something to defend me and I always worry about some sort of fight happening or him getting wound up and then his night is ruined too.
Prime example is the Christmas eve incident, I was out with my Boyfriend and about 6 other male friends of his, we'd all had a few drinks it wouldn't of ended well if I'd of said something. So I didn't, but he always knows something is wrong with me anyway, and he eventually got it out of me then said it upsets him when I don't tell him, he wants to help me but he cant when I keep it to myself. Complicated!
Anyway, on a more practical note I went for a cleaning last week, 1 word, Owwwwww! The dentist told me off for not cleaning between my teeth with interdental brushes morning noon and night every single day. Then I think as a way of making sure I do clean like that everyday, she took that scaler/drill thing to my teeth and gums like a mad woman. My word did it hurt when she got right in-between my two front teeth, I think that was the deal clincher, "make he cry then she will always use the teepee brushes!" I know I should, but to be perfectly honest some days I just cant be bothered. I brush, use my oral irrrigator and mouthwash twice a day, teepee brushes takes ages and its fiddly and there's like 5 different sizes and I'm either running late in the morning or I'm stupidly past my bedtime at night and I'm lazy.
Sorry teeth for not teepeeing you everyday, I will try and make more of an effort to do so in future.
Next tightening is 5th of Feb, not too long to go!!!!
It's weird reading your story about the boy who said something to you and you didn't want to say anything to your boyfriend - I would never talk about what people said because I didn't want to draw attention to it, or even acknowledge it because then it gives people permission to talk about it.
ReplyDeleteMy dad used to make jokes and he had no idea they hurt my feelings until I started talking about surgery!
Nowerdays I'm rarely subject to anything verbal, but I can just tell if a guy, or someone is looking at my face, and I just know they're working out why I look weird - thats when my eye contact goes right down the drain...
Are you able to laugh it off there and then? or do you ignore it like me and then talk about it on here lol?
Good luck on the 5th! x
Sophie! Don't be so hard on yourself, you never know maybe that guy is looking at you thinking, I'd like to get me some that! :-)
ReplyDeleteMy approach differs, I guess it depends on who I'm with, what mood I'm in etc. Most of the time if I'm with friends, boyfriend or family I ignore it and pretend it hasn't happened and carry on. Mainly like you, just to save my myself and whoever I'm with the embarrassment of acknowledging that I've just been called a name or to avoid a "situation".
But I've found more recently that if I'm on my own I say something back to the person who has made a comment.
I think I've just become so fed up with hearing the same comments and probably because I'm getting surgery soon to fix my apparent "abnormality" that sometimes I just think sod it, I'm not letting you get away with that comment and pull them up about it. Usually just acknowledging them, looking at them or asking them to repeat what they just said shuts them up.
They're bullies and are often not expecting a response so I find it catches them off guard if I respond, if they do have the balls to say it again I find it quite easy to pick out a visible difference about them and make it known. I figure I've heard all the horrible names and comments I'm ever going to hear so what do I have to loose?
I do find talking about it on here helps, as horrible as it is, it's comforting to know that other people out there get the same treatment as me, they get picked on, had a difficult time at school, struggle with confidence etc.
It's nice to know that I'm not alone in my experiences and that actually I'm not that different, there's loads of people out there just like me. x